Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Centered Prayer as Self-Care

Universal self-care starts with us today, now and in every moment. We are being called to become conscious of our energy. If we look at our body-spirit energy as a bank filled with golden energy coins, where are our precious golden energy coins going? Are we giving all of it to one aspect of our lives, perhaps to a job that is demanding or to a family member who is ill?

I talk about this from a place of experience. Having a family member who has struggled with mental illness, spiritual crisis and addiction for quite some time, I have firsthand experienced giving up all my golden energy coins for another being. Feeling that if I perhaps invested all my gold coins in his healing bank that he would heal and be cured. The opposite happened. Since I did not have any gold coins left to spend on my self-care, on my health, integrity or even having fun, I myself then became ill! My immune system was so depleted, I did not feel that I would ever re-gain my youthful soul again and my family member worsened as well.

After a few years of seeking alternative medicine, and working with a healer that taught me about becoming conscious of my energy and protecting myself, I was able to re-claim my gold coins. I call this act, centered prayer. From a place that is grounded, protected and in integrity I was able to give love from a place of balanced self-care versus unconscious resentment. This family member of mine is on a healing path of his own accord now. From a place of his own personal power instead of mine, he has asked for help and is stable and present for the first time in 10 years! I feel I can truly be more helpful to him now than ever before.

I wanted to share this miracle with all of you. I can just imagine that everyone of you out there has at least one place in your life that you may be investing too many of your golden energy coins. Check out Karla McLaren's books and audio cassetes if you are interested in pursuing ways of protecting yourself energetically and coming from a centered place of giving. Carolyn Myss, author and medical intuitive is another amazing resource for reading about energy protection, boundaries, sacred contracts and spiritual self-care.

Wednesday, August 1, 2007

Whose Got Time Anyway?

Finding the space and time for self-care can be difficult. What blocks our capacity to create the sacred space for self-care even within busy schedules? The words that come to me are distraction and discipline. There are a gazillion distractions in 21st century America...You know what they are! Distractions that may be comforting and needed at times yet in the extreme way may take away from time that our bodies, minds and spirits need replenishing.

And then that other word; discipline. I have a hard time with this one, perhaps its' my Sagittariun rebellious nature. Yet I'm trying to re-frame discipline as structured self-love. There may not be a manual or a great model of adding self-care into our busy weekly life, so we have to make our own! If scheduling it in our planners, palm pilots or outlook programs at work is what it takes, then lets go for it! How about asking a partner, friend or co-worker as our self-care advocate and ask them for simple and gentle reminders every so often? Let me know what helps and write to us with your secret formula! We'd love to hear from you...

Tuesday, July 24, 2007

Back to Basics

Sometimes life gets so harried, I find myself forgetting to breathe. You know, really breathe way down into my diaphragm. When things are this busy, my self-care regimen goes back to basics. There's no meditating, no acupuncture appointments, no yoga--nope, it's just me coaching myself to remember to drink a glass of water, take a deep breath, brush my teeth, get out of my chair at work or eat something.

It reminds me of the Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs which basically states that we must have our physiological bases covered in order to attend to our mental, emotional, and spiritual needs. I'm not sure that I agree that it's that black & white, but I do think there is something to Maslow's theory. For me, my needs seem to resemble a spiral rather than a pyramid. Part of me might be working on healing a big life-issue, while the other part is barely breathing, while another part is overjoyed and in love.

There is a quote by Anais Nin that says, "We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another, unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another."

I love this quote. It reminds me to be gentle with myself and remember that sometimes it's OK to just focus on the basics.

Wednesday, July 18, 2007

A Hot Bath A Day Keeps the Crankies Away

...Ahhhhhh.....I just stepped out of a nice hot purifying bath. I sit down to write my first post on this lovely blog (thanks rubyslippers, great idea:) smelling the lovely aroma of my favorite candle. I type this post as I am serenaded by a lovely sound healing CD. It is great to have all my senses collaborating...I feel as fully present as I can in this moment.

An amazing way we can become more present, enjoy life and offer our services to others is through self-care. Before this bath, candle and music experience, I was extremely agitated and had to convince myself that self-care was the best thing I could do for myself and my family in that moment. I always feel better when I pause in life, a pause with pizazz is best!

I believe self-care is about connection. How we connect with our body, mind and spirit in an honoring way allows us to shine and in that radiance can connect us to others.
I am passionate about this blog collaboration and sharing with you, whoever you are! When is the last time you took a nice relaxing bath?
Here is my self-care formula for this evening...take what works, and leave what doesn't...who knows maybe this is a self-care formula for you for some night this week:)?

Dr. Singha's Mustard Bath--use in a hot bath then purify toxins in a shower following bath!

Big Dipper Wax Works Aromatherapy Candles (Vitality)--clean-burning, amazing smell!

Healing Music Project 2--World Renowned Sound Healers create beautiful music:)

What Is Self Care?

I thought it would be a good idea to try to define what "self care" means. I guess that's a personal matter and could mean different things to different people. For me, it means taking time to listen to my heart & intuition, being gentle with myself by remembering I am perfectly imperfect, doing my best to ask for help when I need it, and doing my best choose life-affirming, healthy behaviors while still remembering I'm perfectly imperfect. I had to tack on the "perfectly imperfect" phrase again because I am notorious for being hard on myself--especially when it comes to what I "should" be doing. I catch myself being hard on myself for being hard on myself! Amazing. I'm workin' on it...

Writing out the principles of self care makes it seem so simple, doesn't it? But why are they sometimes so challenging to follow-through and to sustain? I guess that's why we are here in the first place. Gotta keep it interesting somehow, eh?

On another note, I'm so excited about this blog! Tons of ideas have been pouring into my consciousness and I can't wait to share them with you all! I'm open to your feedback and suggestions as well!

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

It starts with us

Welcome to the Universal Self Care Blog! I started this site on a whim after seeing the movie Sicko just a few nights ago. While the content of the film was very powerful, I left feeling helpless and didn't know what to do next. The thought of fighting against the powers of corporations and corrupt governments seemed exhausting to me. So I sat and asked myself, "What can I really do?" And it dawned on me. The best thing I can do is to take the best care of myself as possible and encourage others to do the same. A wise teacher of mine often says that when we raise our own energetic frequencies, lower energetic frquencies cannot harm us. I think this makes a lot of sense. If we committ to listening to our hearts and the wisdom of our bodies, we can be the change we wish to see in the world. I've been a student of health, nutrition, yoga, alternative medicine, and spirituality for my entire adult life and hope to share some of what I know with you and I hope you will share your wisdom too. I hope this evloves into useful resource and gathering place for like-minded individuals who would like to do the same.